ABOUT
HEY, I'M JAMES.
However you've ended up here, I'm grateful to be able to share a little of my story with you below.
BACKGROUND AND DEFINING MOMENTS
FOR MOST OF MY LIFE, I BELIEVED THAT SOMETHING IN ME WAS BROKEN
Many people talk finding their purpose through their pain. Traumatic experiences, grief and loss - we learn to take our suffering and alchemise it into something to help others.
For most of my life, I was in a lot of pain emotionally - the problem was, no one could figure out why.
See, from the outside looking in, there was nothing obviously wrong. In childhood, I grew up in a loving family, the middle child of three brothers and two caring parents. School reports showed me to be a "naturally gifted, high-achiever," regularly at the top of my class. I excelled in music, sports, and was well-liked by peers, teachers, and family friends.
Despite all of this, my childhood was filled with frustration, anger and sadness - something that no achievement seemed to resolve. The harder I tried, the more confused and frustrated I became. My temper boiling over, I would regularly impact family events and the experiences of those around me.
That confusion, twinned with no obvious explanation for feeling the way I did, I drew the only conclusion I could as a child:
If there was nothing wrong, there must be something wrong
with me.
THE SUICIDE OF A CLOSE FRIEND IN 2018 FORCED ME TO START EXPLORING MY OWN SUFFERING
My struggles continued into adulthood, shifting from the classroom and sports fields to my relationships and career.
Whilst I explored and enjoyed many years of my twenties, travelling the world and pursuing my goals, I suffered heavily with depression and anxiety attacks, resulting in a collapse in my mental health at the age of 24.
In 2018, the loss of a friend and brother to suicide stirred something deep within me - having been so close to him and spent so much time together, I was confused as to how he could have kept his pain so well hidden.
"What suffering was I not seeing?" - a question I found myself asking whenever I reflected on the last few years of Harry's life. As I began to explore the emotional suffering that we had all so sadly missed, I soon came to realise I needed to ask myself the very same question.
This question led me to a variety of therapies and alternative healing modalities over the next few years; compassion-focused therapy, breathwork, psychedelics/plant medicine, shadow work and Internal Family Systems (IFS) - as I deepened my self-exploration through each of these practices, I finally began to find the answers that had been evading me for so long. With the right tools and support, I could finally let go of the false narratives of my own brokenness, and begin to heal.
AS I HEALED MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MYSELF, I DISCOVERED I WASN'T ALONE IN MY STRUGGLES
Sharing my journey through social media and podcasts in recent years wasn't only instrumental in healing my relationship with myself. As I shared more openly for others to hear, the more I realised that I wasn't alone.
Whether its was the internal struggles with self-worth, shame, perfectionism and people-pleasing, or the the reflections of those struggles in the external world - challenges with relationships, disconnection from friendship groups, breakdowns in family dynamics, a loss of direction or purpose - the same patterns of feeling lost, stuck, disconnected and trapped in life were everywhere.
Having spent so many years searching (and suffering) for the answers to my pain, I became determined to support as many people as possible in their own search for inner freedom and healing. With a background in coaching in corporate and sales environments, I obtained my certification in Trauma Informed Coaching through the Centre for Healing in 2023, along with my Breathwork Fundamentals certification and IFS-informed coaching (TBC summer 2024) - combining these with the wisdom of my own lived-experiences, I'm now grateful to be supporting people in their personal healing journeys.
WORK WITH JAMES
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ONE BROTHERHOOD
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